Highly recommended.

We are awaiting our 2nd child.

What I saw that I liked:

I enjoyed the openmindedness of the movie presenting a positive viewpoint of home births. Pointing out that women having a different perspective than a lot of OBGYN’s.

Being raised by an OBGYN I have had difficulties understanding the “hospital is best” perspective. I learned that an OBGYN was taught specific procedures, and tests that should be given to produce specific results. Med students are great at knowing different parts of the body, diagnosing illnesses, and working with urgent situations. They aren’t trained adequately in the different ways the bodies healing systems work together. They don’t view child birth as a natural process, but rather as a condition that needs to be treated. Due to this it can be hard for OBGYN’s to believe in and understand alternative child birthing methods.

I agree that hospitals birthing is limiting. Because of this some OB’s can not be as personal as they could be. They are given standards that they follow irregardless of what the women may want.

You can’t blame OBGYN’s. You can’t blame hospitals. The whole system is full of quirks. But we can’t live without them.

Things I didn’t like,

The movie talked about OBGYN’s only being trained in doing surgeries all day long. It stated that they don’t have the proper training to do OB Care with the patients. They don’t always provide the emotional care that the mother needs during the birthing process. Midwifes can fulfill this need more easily. The movie did not list any benefits about hospital births and is therefore very biased.

I didn’t appreciate seeing a lady compeletly nude in the bathtub. I understand that it is part of the birthing process but they didn’t need to show it in that way in the movie.

It stated that OBGYN’s don’t offer as personalized care as mid wive’s can. I think that depends on the individual mid wife and OB. In the movie the lady talked about having a midwife and and OB and her never thinking about going back to the OB. What I got out of this is that she had an impersonal OB and a personal midwife.

After talk-show host Ricki Lake experienced a bad childbirth in-hospital, she decided to try a midwife, and thus THE BUSINESS OF BEING BORN was …um …birthed. I can’t help but think that some of this (not all) was a ploy by Lake to put herself back in the public eye; specifically, the movie industry. Although this is strictly a documentary, and other actors support various causes (from freeing Darfur to Tibetan independence), this one felt a bit more forced.

The reason I say this is that the entire documentary was exceptionally boring and exceptionally lopsided. I work in the medical field (as an RN) but not in an Obstetrics setting. I can, however, vouch for the terrible cost of healthcare and some of the impersonalness of those giving it (as this documentary pointed out). I’ve heard doctors talking about “tee times” on the golf course and the need to “get home by dinner,” so time is a big factor for physicians (the film pointed out that C-section deliveries peek at 4pm — just prior to dinnertime — and again at 10pm — so doctors can get home to bed). Be damned whether the patient needs a C-section or not, doctors force the decision so that they can “get on with their lives.” Cut and run!

Even with its interesting take on the care of OB/Gyn patients in the U.S., the film never delves outside of the States even though certain statistics are presented (including telling us that the infant mortality rate in the U.S. is one of the highest amongst developed countries). I would’ve liked to have seen at least one interview with a Japanese midwife or a European midwife, and have them show us how their system works. But we’re never give the opportunity to see this for ourselves.

The boring nature of the film is that it never really finds its focus. Although the title of it is The Business of Being Born, it focused more on the plight of midwives and their care of expectant mothers at home or in midwife clinics. We drive around with midwives, trot down the road with midwives, listen to midwives talk on the phone to patients, and get to watch a couple of in-home births. Then we start the entire process over again.

And there’s also a brief and confusing stint in which we learn one of the film’s producers is pregnant and trying to decide on prenatal care.

All-in-all it’s an informative story, but one that might cause a few too many yawns.

I see previous answers have trotted out the great defence of BDSM, ‘people who don’t like it don’t understand’, are ‘immature’ and even ‘unenlightened’. What arrogance!

I don’t like Paedophilia, is there something I am missing there too?

Just because people find BDSM repulsive, it doesn’t follow that they don’t understand. It’s perfectly valid to hold the opinion that someone who gets turned on by violent sex has got something wrong in their head.

The United Nations World Health Organisation categorises sexual sadism and sexual masochism as mental health and behavioural disorder in the international classification of diseases handbook (ICD10). Are they Immature and unenlightened too?

The whole thing boils down to the fact that some sad sacks who get turned on by abusing, humiliating and brutalising women have invented this mystical fabrication called BDSM which excuses the brutality in their eyes, and sadly in the eyes of some women.

If it wasn’t for a few people believing this nonsense, men who abuse to turn themselves on would be known by their true name

The accused.

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It’s worse than that.

I do understand.

Why do I understand? Because I did find the person to inspire me. The one. And I know they felt the same way too but a friend introduced them to sadists and guess what? They ended up in an abusive relationship some sick sad sack who gets turned on humiliating abusing and brutalising women.

And before you jump to a conclusion, no they had no ‘Longing’ before sadism poisoned their mind. Quite the opposite In fact, we found it odd and slightly amusing when the subject of sadism came up. Long story short they got chatting to sadists, ironically when I raised concerns I was told that they felt ’safe’, I was dumped, and the person I knew no longer existed. Why do you think this is?

My opinion is that sadism acts exactly like a cult, and recruited someone who had no interest in it, to make them the plaything of abusers. A piece of meat to be used and past on. Don’t you ever wonder why abusive relationships within sadism rarely last?

Yes sadism has lasted for centuries; it is named after the Marquis de Sade who first documented his warped desires. Someone I might add who spent most of his adult life in mental institutions and prison because his preferences where so offensive, as have many sadists throughout history.

So you see, its not a case of ‘not understanding’ (again) I understand perfectly what sadists are about. I have read all the dogma and all the excuses, however I use scepticism and I find it full of contradictions and deliberate deceit like all cults.

That’s why I come here and give my opinion, every one is allowed to hold an opinion arn’t they?

Except by cults that is.

I’m a strong advocate of home delivery and the use of midwives, but I can not recommend this movie due to its unnecessary profanity and unnecessary “lengthiness”. Trust me, if you’re really interested in watching this movie; just see the 3 minute trailer. It will give all the information you need without the added garbage featured in the movie.

ANSWER: The reason should be the same as more women in porn movies than men. Because men spend lots of money for porn, therefore the industry normally target men. -> Men like to see Men dominating women.

On the other hand women dominance is unrealistic even though these videos are made by using actors.

It is kind of a SICK desire to watch these videos. (I can’t resist it completely. Sometimes I like to watch them. But after watching them I feel sad about myself for watching them. The truth must be that we feel happy to watch women get tied and tortured. ). Also I have read that people who love bondage has sick mentality. Also I have heard that couples do organized bandage activities with pleasure. It is ok because both parties are enjoying it, but …? I think there is something wrong.